The gift notes

Ponderings while searching for pebbles

The gift notes

Ponderings while searching for pebbles

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Why the People You Know Best Are Often the Hardest to Buy For

Why are the people you love hardest to buy for? Research on the closeness-communication bias shows knowing someone well makes us confident, not accurate — and how to fix it.

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Father's Day Gifts - You've Left It Late. Here's How to Still Get It Right.

Left Father's Day gift shopping to the last minute? You're not alone. Research shows it matters less than you might think. Here's how to still find a gift that works.

What We Learned at Game Changer London (And Why the Trust Conversation Felt Very Familiar)

We spent a day at Game Changer London talking AI, trust and human behaviour with 350+ founders, researchers and builders. Here's what stuck with us.

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Why Receiving a Bad Gift Hurts More Than People Admit

Research shows bad gifts trigger feelings of social exclusion and being unseen. Here's the psychology behind why a wrong gift stings, and what it reveals about relationships.

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The Difference Between a Thoughtful Gift and an Expensive One

Research shows that while givers think expensive gifts are better, recipients actually prefer less costly gifts that show real thought. It’s the personal touch, not the price, that matters.

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Why We Give Bad Gifts (And It Has Nothing To Do With How Much You Care)

Bad gifts rarely result from lack of care. Research from Carnegie Mellon University shows the main cause is a mismatch in priorities: givers optimise for the moment of opening (surprise, delight), while recipients care more about long-term usefulness and meaning. Even thoughtful people fall into this trap because it's built into how we think about others.